Бесплатный фрагмент - Psychology of women

Introduction

In this book, I will tell the reader about several important points in the psychology of women that I discovered when I worked with them, communicated with them, studied them, and helped them solve various problems. Here mostly my own experience is described, I did not take other people’s knowledge from other sources, I did not rewrite them in my own words. I don’t see any interest in repeating other people’s thoughts and discoveries, especially without checking and thinking about them myself. Therefore, the book was written largely on the basis of my personal and professional experience. And this experience consists of years of studying women, through deep communication with them and solving their psychological problems.

I will mainly talk in this book about problematic moments in women’s psychology and in general about problems with them, because people, whether men or women, are interested in this topic, mostly just such problematic moments they want to understand. And my work with people comes down mainly to solving problems, that is, to such things that usually cause unpleasant feelings. That’s why I write about these things in this book, about problems, about negative moments, about what causes discomfort and pain to people. But the good, good things that you need to know about will also be described here. There is something good and something bad in all people. And even if these things are conditional and relative, we will still pay more attention to those of them that most strongly affect our lives and our condition. Here, I will tell you what I have encountered most often, what I have best delved into.

I want the reader to understand that my attitude towards women is normal, I can say even, in fact, the same as for men, if we talk about evaluating internal qualities. And despite the negative features of the female nature that I will write about, I do not generalize women in any way and do not consider them bad, evil, and so on, which can sometimes be found in misogynistic works. A person is a person, there is enough in him. And although women and men differ from each other in some aspects, from a psychological point of view, first of all, it is all the same, both of them are people with the inherent advantages and disadvantages of our species. So if I say something unpleasant about women here, it doesn’t mean that men don’t have the same or other negative qualities. We can say that everyone is good, if we divide people into men and women. And so, of course, a lot depends on the specific person. And from specific situations. If any of my thoughts about women are harsh, don’t think that this is the case of all of them. Or that women are generally worse than men. Of course, this is not the case. This is generally not serious, such over-communication to do. And all these wars of the sexes-this, in my opinion, is some kind of stupidity, childishness. I don’t take it seriously. And here I just write about the problems and my understanding of them that I have encountered and that relate to women.

Women are no mystery to me. More precisely, they are no more mysterious than men. Gender does not determine the complexity of a person’s behavior, it is determined by what is in his head. And there can be a lot of interesting things. And at the same time, in terms of the composition of thoughts and their influence on human behavior, people can be very much the same. If one woman behaves in a certain way in a certain situation, then many others may behave in the same way. Therefore, if many things in the behavior of different people coincide, then they act according to the same natural rules. If you understand one woman who behaves in a certain way, you will also understand another who shows similar behavior.

Some aspects of women’s psychology that I will talk about may be interesting not only for men who want to better understand some women, but also for women themselves. I have seen many times that women often do not understand themselves, they do not understand their desires, motives, can not explain the laws of their behavior, the logic underlying their actions. Because they didn’t go into these things. And I delved into it. So I know more about it. I studied all these patterns, because I had to study them in order to solve the problems of women and with women. And now I will tell the reader about what I think is important to know.

Whatever and no matter how well each of you already know about women’s psychology, this book will surely complement your knowledge. And maybe even refute some of them. You will gain a better understanding of women if you are a man, or a better understanding of yourself if you are a woman, by reading this book. Well, now, let’s move on to them, to knowledge.

Mercantile women

Let’s talk about female commercialism. This is a common phenomenon in our lives, so it is important to know everything about it. When it comes to mercantile women, it usually causes negative emotions in many men, because they see commercialism as something bad that they do not like to face in life. Many men have suffered enough with women who have this quality, so they know what to expect from such women. Sometimes no beauty helps a woman to interest a peasant if he sees how mercantile she is. Because men, when mentioning such women, get the image of a kind of cold, in some cases aggressive and eternally dissatisfied female person, for whom it does not matter at all what a man is, the main thing is that you can take from him. And most importantly, such a woman is always just a little, she never gets enough. Therefore, such a quality as commercialism scares men, and it also angers and disgusts them.

But the most interesting thing is that commercialism is common to all women, without exception, and not only women. Another thing is how this quality manifests itself in them. It may be primitive, or it may be mature. So let’s think with you about what commercialism is. This is an excessive desire for material gain, prudence, including petty ones, and generally speaking, it is putting material goods at the forefront. You can also say that this is a fixation on material benefits, on material goods, to the detriment of everything else. So, such a state of mind in a person occurs from childhood, this applies to both men and women. We all initially know how to appreciate material goods, we don’t even need to be taught this. After all, we are talking about resources, and they play a very important role in life for us. They give us life. Therefore, from birth we are all mercantile. We begin to appreciate people and their qualities later, as we develop, and at the beginning we value what we can touch, taste, decorate ourselves with, what we can appropriate, what we can possess as our own property. We want to own things in order to feel safe. Because the possession of material values increases our chances of survival. This is a primitive approach to life, it is necessary for us at the initial stage of development, when a person needs the most basic resources.

In our time, of course, everything is a little perverted, we deceive our instincts when we strive for completely unnecessary things, for resources on which our lives do not depend. For example, a child may very much want to get a new toy that he saw in the store, considering it valuable for himself simply because it does not belong to him. He doesn’t need this thing at all, either for survival or for development. It only symbolizes value, but it is not a value. But once upon a time, very, very long ago, in its place could be an extra piece of food, giving the necessary calories for life, or an animal skin, which can be warmed in a cold cave. And in such conditions, it is vital to have such resources. Our instincts, they are not meant for civilization, but for the wild. In civilization, an important role is played by intelligence, which allows you to distinguish really valuable things from the illusion of value. And in the wild, you need to be able to listen first to your body in order to survive, and only then think. Therefore, nature has made man so prudent that he can get everything he needs for life.

So we are all focused on material goods at the beginning of our life’s journey. But then a person, as his perception of the world becomes more complex, thanks to the development of the brain, begins to realize other values besides material ones. For example, the value of a person, the same parents, thanks to whom he is also financially secure, protected, who take care of him, because strangers do not need him as much as their parents. In an even more developed state, which often correlates with age, a person begins to appreciate intangible values, that is, spiritual ones, such as: love, respect, decency, honesty, loyalty, reliability, responsibility, intelligence and other similar things. These are values that cannot be touched, tasted, smelled, or shaped in their own right, but they do exist, and they are also very valuable. Financial well-being may also depend on them. For example, if you are smart enough, will you be lost in this life, will you not be able to take care of yourself, earn money, and solve other issues related to resources and people? That’s why smart people know that the same knowledge can be more important than money. Money was received and spent, and knowledge is a constant value, with their help the same money can be regularly extracted. And thinking is an even more important value. But for those who have not grown up to such an understanding, all this does not matter. Therefore, people value what they are able to appreciate, what corresponds to their level of understanding. Material values are the easiest to understand, so they appreciate them. I mean mercantile people.

Do you understand now what the commercialism of a person means, in our case we are talking about the commercialism of a woman? About its relative underdevelopment. It is stuck in the period when a person can only appreciate material values, because he does not understand anything else. And if a woman is already an adult, but apart from material benefits, she is not interested in anything, then this one has not fully developed. She either slowed down her development altogether, as happens with infantile children, or she was simply taught to value only material goods, which in general also indicates her inferior development. We can say that commercialism in its primitive form is immaturity, infantilism. Accordingly, in the behavior of such a woman there will be other features of immaturity. She will be capricious, greedy, aggressive when something goes wrong, reckless, greedy for any pathos, irresponsible and unreliable. This can easily betray, for any reason. And if it happens that a man with whom she got together only for the sake of his money, property, status, support and help in her face, he will not see. A mercantile woman is just a big girl. People are not valuable to her, she just uses them.

But women’s commercialism can be quite mature, one might say, appropriate. This is when she knows how to appreciate not only material things, but also non-material ones, and yet, shows prudence in the matter of relationships with men, she prefers material goods to the detriment of other values. She does this on purpose, because it is a more appropriate choice for her in her situation. Here, first of all, you need to understand that a woman, according to the idea of nature, is a mother. And mothers need to raise their children. That’s what her brain is set up to do. And this requires resources. And so the female brain should be tuned in to attract these resources to itself. How? Through the attraction of a man to himself. The man in such cases considers as a source of resources. Even if not only them, but also including them or them in the first place. But the point is not even in need, but in the fact that there are no other qualities in men surrounding a woman in vain.

It is good when there is a man who you can rely on first of all, as a person-reliable, loyal, responsible, serious. No matter how much he earns, no matter what he has, a woman can be sure in him that he will try for her, for the family, for the children when they appear. And if there is no such thing? if there are only womanizers and infantilepeople around? So you have to choose from what you have. And in this case, why not give preference to the person who at least knows how to earn money well. I repeat, a woman is first of all a mother, not a breadwinner, she should take care of children, at least according to the idea of the same nature, and for them she should extract resources through her male partner. To do this, she must be able to influence him in the right way, mainly through emotions, because it is emotions that encourage us to act. Which it does. She looks mercantile in such cases, in fact, exploiting the man, but this is only because he himself has nothing more to offer her.

A woman consciously begins to see a man only as a breadwinner, when he is no longer capable of anything. This is how mature commercialism manifests itself. Or even when the woman herself does not believe that she can meet and be interested in a man who is not only able to bring money to the house, but can also be a reliable, honest, decent partner who will never deceive, betray, or throw. If she believes that with such a person she is not destined to be, well, then let her man at least be a good breadwinner. A smart mature woman knows how to appreciate a man’s qualities, but she is not always able to get a man who has these necessary valuable qualities. Therefore, she looks at those who are in her life and chooses the most useful for her. Thus, people can value not only what they understand, but also what they can and are forced to value, given their situation. It’s like a man in solitary confinement in a prison. For him, even a small spider can become a great friend, which he will appreciate very, very much simply because there is no one else who can brighten up his loneliness.

So a woman drips on a man’s brain and puts pressure on him constantly, urging him to supply her with more and more resources, when he understands that this is the only way to get something from him.

Of course, the manifestation of this trait of a woman’s character comes not only from nature or from the situation in which she finds herself, but also from the upbringing, the worldview of a woman, which she has formed by the people around her. A woman may be quite developed, but at the same time she will consider that material values are more expensive than anything else in this world, because she has not seen anything else, has not tried, so to speak, anything else. I have heard and read about other values, but I have not seen them in person and have not experienced joy from them. She knows that a man is valuable not only for what he has, not only for his money and possessions, but also for himself, as a person, as a person. She understands that material values are not the only thing that is important in life, there are other valuable things. But, I repeat, she saw only such a relationship between a man and a woman, in which a woman appreciated a man only for his security and for nothing else. And it’s hard not to depend on such examples. We all view life exactly as most people around us do. Our behavior model is in many ways a copy of the behavior model of the people around us. Therefore, if you see a certain life around you for a long time from childhood, then you will live approximately the same or exactly the same.

And people are specially instilled with a consumer lifestyle, teaching them to appreciate luxury, so that they always strive for an expensive life. And it’s not just about advertising that programs people, especially women. Do you know, for example, that now in school children almost force each other to have only expensive, branded things? If you buy non-branded clothing or any other accessories, you will be ridiculed, humiliated, insulted. This, of course, has always been the case, children, what can I say, have a primitive view of life. Just give them a reason to attack someone. They can peck at everything and for poverty, and for other distinctive moments that they consider shortcomings. But now especially children can be instilled with respect to expensive and dislike for inexpensive things. There are children whose parents work for various marketing companies and they constantly dress up their children in expensive clothes that these companies give them for rent. These kids dressed in expensive clothes come to school and start showing off, telling other children that this is the way to dress, belittling those who look poorer. They then run to their parents and ask them to buy them new things. And they do not care about the capabilities of their parents, children do not know how to count money at all. And such advertising kids then put on new clothes again, but they are still given them for rent. The same thing happens in universities. I know people who work in this kind of job and advertise things on purpose, either at universities themselves or through children who go to school. And then what will a little girl who is terrified that she will be ridiculed if she does not dress expensively think? She will think that money is everything! It is on them that a person’s happiness depends. We are all food for the system and we are taught to live in a way that is beneficial to the system. They will teach women to ride men like this, and they will be happy to exploit them mercilessly. And it is important for the system that a person plows for it without sparing himself, because this is what it lives on.

There is also a positive side to women’s commercialism, which is useful not only for themselves, but also for their men. Mercantile women are able to push their men to great success. By creating stressful situations for them or making them believe that if they want to be with them, they must be successful, mercantile women force men to move and achieve something. With such women, a man will not lie down on the couch and grow a belly, they simply will not allow him to do it. They will force him to work, move up the career ladder, develop a business, and achieve great success in other matters, depending on what their man is doing. And in this way, in certain cases, such women help their men to become someone, to achieve something in life, to succeed in something. On the other hand, if you go too far in this business, then a man simply cannot withstand the constant pressure from a woman who will drive him forward, up and away from her.

It also happens that having achieved something, a man refuses a woman who constantly drove him forward and finds someone simpler to live in peace, without any nerves. He finds a woman who needs him, not his achievements. So, after all, in most cases, the female commercialism of men is more repulsive, even if the woman is outwardly very attractive. Not everyone has the money to buy beauties. Therefore, whatever motivates a mercantile woman, it is better not to overdo this approach to life and to men. Otherwise, there will simply be no one in her life. At least no one serious. Well, men should not spoil women. If they buy their beauty, I will donkey on them, not sparing myself, then the demands of women will only increase. And the female appetite, it has no end, no edge.

A real woman

In this chapter, we will talk about the real women that I consider to be such, based on my professional and life experience. What makes a woman real? I am sure that there are many opinions on this issue. I’ve heard different versions. However, based on the feelings that many men who have lived with different women have told me about, as well as on my own experience, I have chosen one of the most important criteria that allows me to call this or that woman real. Do you think we are talking about femininity, sexuality, emotionality, female weakness, economy, kindness, and other such well-known things? No, these are all derivatives of another, more important quality of a woman. Namely, respect. It is about the respect that a woman shows to a man as a person, as a person, as someone who can be trusted, who can be trusted, who should be valued only for the fact that he does nothing wrong to a woman and takes care of her to the best of his abilities and capabilities.

That is, when the measure of a woman’s attitude to a man is her relationship with a normal man — not with a prince, before whom she can curry favor for the sake of selfish interests, and not with an outright degenerate, egoist, mother’s son, who clearly does not deserve respect for himself, but with a man who appreciates her, then her disrespect for such a person is this indicates some of her shortcomings, because of which it is difficult to call her a real woman. I’m not saying this as a reproach to any women right now, it’s just my vision of this issue, which was formed through observing relationships between people. What I see and think is what I write. You may not agree with this, but you can take it into account in order to evaluate the quality of a woman in this way. A real woman, I repeat, respects a man and therefore is ready to obey him, knowing that she can rely on him. If the man is such that he does not deserve respect, then the question arises about her respect for herself.

If someone says, and some of the women will definitely say that not every man deserves respect, so a woman can not respect some and respect other men, I will never argue with this. What’s true is true. After all, men can also be real and not quite. But the ability to respect a man is a quality that can be called the inner femininity of a woman, and it is always traced in her, no matter who she is with. If this quality exists, then it will manifest itself to all men, first of all in the fact that a woman will not behave like a last bitch. Even if a man does not deserve respect, a woman will not allow herself to be rude to him. She can always leave, now women have such freedom, they don’t have to put up with all sorts of tyrants and slobbers. But to live with a man and behave rudely with him, not to reckon with him, not to obey him, to use him in any way, and even more so to humiliate him in public, means not to be a woman. This is not feminine behavior.

And some women don’t need to hide behind the bitchiness that men supposedly like, explaining their disrespect for them. Bitchiness is a feminine trait that men appreciate only under certain conditions. First, no normal person can fully appreciate self-disrespect, because this is tantamount to not being recognized as a person. Therefore, if a man likes bitches who wipe their feet on him, then it makes sense to think about what is wrong with him, who made him so, that in the end he loves something because of whom he can not love himself. And secondly, some men only pretend that they like bitches just to use them, but they don’t want to live with such women. They have enough self-respect to avoid serious relationships with such women. When a woman behaves with a man as if she is a queen, and he is a slave, then she clearly lacks something feminine and a normal man will be repelled by it. Another thing is that there are many men in society who were brought up in a special way by their mothers, who turned them into such servants who are used to obeying a woman, first of all their mother, so in their subsequent relationships they calmly relate to the dominance of a woman and even to her humiliation of them. Such relationships have their own problems, because they are not completely healthy, they can get to such a point that both men and women will feel bad. Because without people’s respect for each other and, in particular, without a woman’s respect for her man, they will live in a state of constant war. One will oppress the other, in particular, a woman will oppress a man and neither she nor he will like it.

A real woman does not want to command a man, because she does not need it. This is both disrespectful to a man as a leader by nature, and an extra burden for a woman. Why would she do that? If she met a normal man, by social standards normal, let him command, let him dominate, let him solve issues, problems, let him, as they say, fight for the interests of the family. And she will go about her own feminine affairs. A sign of femininity is humility, compliance, and obedience. And when necessary, then a trick to find a common language with a man. And to command, to suppress, regardless of the opinion of a man, and therefore not respecting her, is not a female trait.

When a woman is able to step aside, allowing a man to show his leadership qualities, when she is able to obey him, if he is smarter in some matters and if he is responsible for her, for the family, for the situation in which they find themselves, then honor her and praise. Because men next to such a woman reveal their masculine qualities. They see that a woman needs their abilities, their intelligence, their masculine strength, they see that a woman expects masculine behavior from them, and if this is masculine in a man, and many men have it, just someone on the surface, and someone in the depths, then it is mandatory when a man wakes up, he will show up and start behaving like a man. No, not as a psycho, but as a responsible person. I’ve seen this happen many times, adjusting the relationship between a man and a woman, which was more like war than cooperation. I’ve always asked women to give in. Well, in most cases exactly. I told them to let themselves be women, and let their men be men. And then, as it turns out. If it doesn’t work, then it won’t help the war either. We need to look for another person. Because in most cases, people don’t want to change for the sake of their partner. Well, if it turns out, if a man, having received the right to command the parade, can cope with this task, then this will be the female happiness that a woman will find — a real woman, with a mature mind, who does not need to be a demanding, capricious girl to enjoy life. She will get a reliable support in the person of her man.

When a woman respects her man, listens to him, and appreciates everything he does for her, she sees her man as a man. First a man, and then a man. And he sees it, understands it, and feels it. This becomes a good motivation for him to show his masculine qualities. If, of course, this is a normal man, and not some degenerate. But if he’s a degenerate, then why would a normal, real woman need him at all? After all, a woman who knows how to respect a man will never be left without a partner. There will definitely be someone who will appreciate this important feminine dignity of hers. And only a real man, with his head on his shoulders, can appreciate this.

What does a woman’s ability or inability to respect a man depend on? Upbringing, maturity, intelligence? Yes, that too. But first of all, we are talking about the femininity of a woman, which makes her to a certain extent dependent on a man, on a normal man, and not on some pretentious alpha male or a fat wallet. A woman respects a man because she needs him. And only a real woman can need a man. Logical? A full-fledged woman who has a feminine psyche recognizes the strong role of a man in this world and needs it. What can not be said about masculine women, whose masculinity is expressed primarily in their low need for a man, as a person, as a partner, as a person. In vain, a non-feminine woman does not need a man, precisely as a person for the soul, as a person on whom you can rely, whom you can trust, in whom she can be confident, even more than in herself. Such a non-feminine woman may be interested in a man-purse, a man-worker, a man-servant, a man as an addition to herself, so that other people can boast of this prominent attribute, in general, she needs a thing called a man, not a person.

With infantile women, this is also the case. They don’t need a man — they need a performer of their whims in the person of a man who should be rich, and beautiful, and have a bunch of other advantages just because they want to. And what he wants, what he needs, what he needs, they don’t think about it at all. Well, infantile people never think about others at all. What kind of respect can there be, they are incapable of it.

A woman who does not respect a man is more determined to fight with him than to cooperate and be friends, with the corresponding mutual trust. Her disrespect is manifested in the desire to dominate a relationship with a man, which is uncharacteristic of a purely female nature. She also wants to use the man, seeks to manipulate him in order to get as much out of him as possible. She doesn’t listen to him, does everything in her own way, resists any attempts to explain something to her, like a little naughty girl. And even if it is obvious that the man is right, because he is more serious, mature, reasonable, he has more responsibility, she still ignores his words. I’m not talking about all sorts of mother’s infantile sons who don’t know what responsibility and seriousness are. I’m talking about men who appreciate women and take care of them. A serious man is a responsible man. And a man’s responsibility alone is a virtue for which he can be respected. However, a fake woman will not do this.

All this logic, of course, applies to men as well. They also need to be able to appreciate important feminine qualities in order to be considered real men, and not just cables. But we’re talking about women here, so we’ll focus on their disrespectful attitude towards a man as a sign that something is wrong with them.

If a woman doesn’t respect a man, men will always have problems with her, always. At first, a man may not pay attention to this, his woman may be beautiful, sexy, bright, she can even do a good job around the house, say good words to him. And then it starts. At first, in small things, she will not have respect for the man, do everything as she wants, and your opinion is completely ignored, and then in more serious matters this negative quality will manifest itself, when the man will feel that he is just some thing, and not a person. A woman can go anywhere she wants without listening to a man. She can do what she wants and how she wants, ignoring his opinion. She will not appreciate his things, his work, his efforts, considering it the norm. In the end, it will all come down to the fact that a man will be presented with claims and demands beyond the norm, and his opinion, desires and problems will be completely ignored, as if he is not a living person, but just a machine for producing goods for a woman. Because a fake woman does not need a man as a person, as a person, I repeat this again. Such women can do without men, they do not need male attention so much. That’s why they don’t value it. Even when there is something to take from a man, they can be so ungrateful in their relationship with him that they simply break down and leave him, just because he did not satisfy some regular whim of theirs.

The reader may disagree with me on this point, considering that a real woman should have other important qualities. This is your right. But I think that if a man goes through one or two women who are not real from my point of view, that is, through those who do not respect men, feel what it’s like when they don’t see a person in you, they don’t see a man, but only a thing, then my soaps will definitely pop up in the head of such a he agrees with their correctness. Whatever virtues a man values in a woman — beauty, sexuality, and even bitchiness-after a painful experience, he will understand what is really valuable in a woman. Therefore, I advise all those who disagree with my point of view on this issue not to rush to put an end to it. First, get the necessary experience of relationships with women who respect and do not respect men, and then compare your feelings to see how close I am to the truth in this chapter.

Angry women

Here, in this chapter, we will talk about evil women. There were many cases in my practice when men complained to me about their women-wives, girlfriends, mistresses, bosses who were very angry. And while analyzing these situations, I discovered some very interesting things that I will tell you about now.

I will not consider cases when a person, in our case a woman, becomes angry because she was angry or is constantly angry. It doesn’t make sense. And so it is clear that if a person is angry, he will be angry. There is a reason, there is a consequence, what is there to discuss? Like cases of dissatisfaction, they also generally do not make sense to consider them. We’ll touch on them in part, but we won’t talk about them for long. Because you should understand without me that when a woman cannot satisfy some of her needs, she becomes aggressive, angry and this is expressed in her behavior. We are more interested in other reasons, not obvious, hidden, which make a woman angry or allow her to look angry, when, it would seem, she should be satisfied and therefore kind.

Here you should pay attention to the goals that some women pursue [I do not know what their percentage in society is] when entering into relationships with men. And their goal is to use the man to their advantage. That is, such women are aimed at material benefits, and the man is a source of such benefits for them. You can say that they sell their body to a man in exchange for everything that can be stripped off. And I want to rip off as much as possible. What does anger have to do with it? Anger is an emotion. And emotions are the main tool of a woman, with the help of which she affects a man. If men mostly use logic, or more precisely, men tend to use logic to influence other people, including women, then women mostly use emotions. And we all know how powerful and effective this tool is, because under the influence of strong emotions, what only people do not do, which they can later regret. But when you are overcome by feelings, your mind leaves you. Therefore, the anger that comes from a woman may well turn out to be not so much an emotion experienced by her as a tool that she is used to using, including unconsciously. She is angry not because something has made her angry, but in order to get the man to do what she needs. In the case of its unconscious use, a woman can lose her temper at the slightest provocation and even without it at all, but simply because she needs something. It’s like a cranky child who gets cranky in order to get what he wants to get. At the same time, he can be angry and shed tears, although from a reasonable point of view there is no serious reason for this.

Thus, for some women, their anger is just a tool of influence on the man that they are used to using. A woman gets angry — a man obeys. A woman likes it. And to get even more, and greed, as you know, has no limits, it becomes even angrier. They, women, namely, evil women, can develop this tool throughout their lives, starting from early childhood. Anger is a way of influencing a person through emotions. And what’s more, women can use emotions. Therefore, angry women, whose anger is difficult to explain, because there are no visible reasons for this anger, are such not because they feel bad, but because they feel good. It would seem that they have a normal life, they need to be happy, enjoy life, and they are angry, hiss, and throw their poison at a man, and not always only at their own, but also at others who turn up at hand, and this causes surprise among people, including men who are behind such a thing behavior is monitored. And they are just so used to getting what they need. That’s the whole clue.

Therefore, if you are faced with an angry, aggressive woman, then be sure to consider this reason, which can make her so. And if you see that a woman’s life is really not bad in general, but quite good for herself, and through anger she only manipulates a man, and not only him, then it makes sense to act with her on the contrary — treat her well when she is kind and hurt her when she is evil.

Evil women are not evil to everyone. They, if they do not understand, then feel that not all men will pass such a number. Mostly, the lights are evil with so-called low-ranking men who have a weak character. НизкоранговогоWomen see a low-ranking man mainly in men who are low-income and unclaimed by other women, who do not have pronounced advantages for which they can be valued. These are ordinary ordinary men, of whom, like the same simple and ordinary women, the majority. They can be mediocre or even repulsive in appearance, and have no stake or yard, by the standards of mercantile women, and their character is often weak, so they become attached to women and often allow them to twist ropes out of themselves. Which evil women are happy to do. In such men [of low rank], women see the black sheep. And to take your tuft of fur from her. That’s why they crush them with their anger. To put it more generally, angry women are angry with those men who allow them to be so with them. And this is usually allowed to be done with themselves by low-ranking men who find it difficult to find a woman, and even more so a prominent one, which is why they hold on to just anyone, forgetting about self-esteem, pride, and self-esteem. It can also be men with low self-esteem. In this case, men can be of medium or high rank, they have everything they need for this, but because of self-doubt, they behave like low-ranking ones men. So the female shepherds pounce on them like a stuffed animal to tear their self-esteem to shreds and turn them into their servants.

Women exude anger, no matter what a man does, no matter how hard he tries for them, thinking about him-but where will he go, this stub, this half-man, who needs him, so spineless and beggarly, so he will tolerate that I live with him. And only sometimes, when I decide to, will I let him near my body. He will tolerate my bullying because of his slavish state of mind and fulfill all my whims, otherwise I will be very angry with him, take out his whole brain, exhaust all his nerves and suck all the blood out of him. That’s what they think. And so such women do. And they often think that if they lose one man, they will easily find another. After all, there are so many of them, all beaten up, running around with their tails between their legs, trying to get used to at least some female. Just wave your finger at them and they’ll come crawling up to you on their bellies. Yes, and those of them who have a tail like a pipe, too, are really a slob. It is only they who show themselves so supposedly cool, and they themselves will instantly dive under the womanly heel, it is only necessary for a woman to show her character.

Therefore, among women who use their anger to control men [and not only them], there are quite a few who somewhat inadequately assess their own merits and incorrectly determine their rank. They think that they themselves are much better than average men and therefore have the right to count on a thoroughbred dog with something to cut off. Why do they think so? Well, first of all, people always think better of themselves than they really are, they always think they deserve more. And secondly, if a woman gets too much attention from men, she begins to think of herself as a princess who can afford to choose the best candidate, of course, under the heel. When they evaluate the interest in themselves of men, especially prominent ones, they also understand it as their own interest in men, which usually implies a long-term relationship. That is, they think that if they are interesting to many men, then they will be in demand seriously, if they only say «yes». While men, unlike women, have a different approach to relationships with women. For men, one-time relationships are the norm, they are set up for such relationships much more often than women, and if they need a woman for a serious relationship, then not everyone, unlike entertainment. For a man, feelings for him have absolutely no meaning when it comes to intimacy. For a woman, they usually have. Therefore, a man may not care how good a woman is, especially in character, because if she is more or less attractive, why would he not climb on her? But nothing serious will follow. In such cases, a woman will most often be used and rejected by a prominent man who is able to interest many, or she will be regularly used by him, without any obligations to her. But she thinks otherwise. She thinks she means something to him. Therefore, he allows himself to spit on men of a lower rank. As a result, such women are often left with a broken trough.

Therefore, mocking a man who needs a woman for a serious relationship, but whom she considers low-ranking, and herself a princess, and therefore happens to be angry with him in order to use him in this way, she can scare away a very good option in the person of a person who would take care of her, appreciate her, at least"I would love you, I would always be there for you. It would seem, live and rejoice. But for many women, or for some, as well as for men, drama is served, and not a calm, measured life. They don’t need normal relationships, they need domination, suffering, humiliation, aggression, pain, that’s the world they want to live in. And, in fact, they live. Because they create it for themselves by their behavior. Why do they need something that is accessible and convenient, if you can suffer, you can live in constant stress, aggression, humiliating those who can be humiliated and humiliating yourself in front of those who are stronger. Purely animal behavior, when there is strength, then you need to use it against the weak. Well, run away from the strong or bend under it, under it, as it turns out.

It also happens that women are simply dissatisfied with the kind of man they got. Their anger is a consequence of their inadequate attitude to life and, in particular, to relationships. Many of them dreamed from childhood of a prince, of a beautiful life, of luxury and the like, which all people strive for, but they did not always understand what the price of such a life is and how best to come to it. I want to realize all my boundless desires at someone else’s expense, just by selling myself profitably. At someone else’s end, so to speak, they dream of entering paradise. Forgive me for being so vulgar, but I’m using a common vernacular here. This is a common craving for freebies, common to people of both sexes. Easily and quickly get what you want. Literature, cinema, only contribute to this desire, excite it with their fairy tales. They invent a lot of fairy tales about Cinderellasнапридумывают, immature freeloaders look at all this and wait for a miracle to happen to him or try to arrange it for themselves — selling themselves more expensive to everyone who is ready to buy. And if they are bought, then only for temporary use, taking advantage of this opportunity. I won’t give you any examples, but the bottom line is that you won’t get a freebie on a silver platter. But you want to.

And here it so happened that in the end she had to get together with a simpler man [this is if she got together with someone at all, it happens that she is left alone in old age], who cannot provide this woman with all the beauty that she dreamed of. No matter how you look at him, he’s not a prince. True, a man can be normal, to the best of his abilities he turns around as best he can, will not leave in trouble, will always earn a piece of bread. But not the prince. And for spoiled women, this is important. Therefore, life with him is not beautiful and not easy, as we would like. And she herself wasn’t very successful in her life to see a significant person in the mirror and be proud of her. In the end, my dreams didn’t come true. Hence the anger. And there is no need to rethink your worldview, no need to think about its adequacy, no need to learn to live with what you have, because if you do not know how to enjoy what you have, everything will always be enough for you. But no, it’s easier to exude poison and take out evil on everyone who allows it. Such a woman looks at her peasant, wants to squeeze the result out of him, as if from a high-ranking male, but does not squeeze out. It’s like getting into a simple car with modest characteristics and trying to use it as a high-quality car that costs ten times more. But it won’t work that way. A cart will ride like a cart, not fly like a jet plane. And a person gets angry because he wants one thing and has another. In this case, the inadequacy of a woman, expressed in her excessive demands on life and the inability to live with what is available, makes her angry.

Very many of them are left alone in their old age, so they don’t get along with anyone. Because they didn’t like the people they could do it with, and the people they wanted didn’t need them. It’s like endlessly choosing something in a store, wanting to choose the best, regardless of your capabilities or your needs, instead of taking what is available and really needed. In the end, you can’t choose anything. Wanting too much, such-too demanding women, as in the famous fairy tale, remain at the broken trough. This, of course, does not add to the joy. And anger because of this can be excessive. What makes a woman especially angry is the realization that, for one reason or another, she doesn’t deserve more and better, as she always wanted.

Infantile women

Do you want to make your life hell? Then marry an infantile woman and have more children with her. And you will have such a life that you will begin to dream of dying as soon as possible. And, in fact, you will begin to approach your death-by starting to abuse alcohol, smoking, stop feeling sorry for yourself, take care of yourself, and become conflicted. All this is a desire to harm yourself, if there is no way to harm such a woman. Or you’ll start hitting her, because that’s what infantile women lead men to do. Do you think I’m exaggerating? But it is precisely such cases that I often encounter in my work, when men have problems with infantile women, wives.

Here you need to understand that an infantile woman, that is, mentally immature, and sometimes also intellectually immature, is a big, capricious, selfish child, with all its inherent shortcomings. Children, as wonderful as they are, are a certain weight that has to be carried until they become sufficiently conscious and adapted to life that they do not need to be bothered with them. When a person matures, they stop being the source of problems, but become the one who solves them or helps to solve them. But an infantile person, while remaining a child at heart, continues to be a burden to those with whom he lives. Because such people, as a rule, cause more problems than good. Of course, such people also have advantages, but they do not compensate for their shortcomings, which is why infantile behavior is a problem. Therefore, it’s hard to live with them. And sometimes it’s incredibly hard.

And only if we consider such people, in particular women, only for frivolous relationships, and therefore do not bear any serious obligations to them, then in this case they will not pose serious problems. That’s why I started this chapter by pointing out the problem with such women, namely when building a serious relationship with them. You can take a walk, meet them, have fun with them and it will be interesting and fun. Well, just like with infantile men. But to use them for something serious means to use them for other purposes. They just can’t handle the responsibility assigned to them in a serious relationship. Because of this, either they themselves will get out of them, or the partner will run away from them, or someone will suffer in this relationship for a very long time until it stops. Living with aninfantile child is like spending your whole life tinkering with a capricious child who is always creating some problems and ruffling your nerves.

To orient you to a specific image of an infantile woman, I can draw your attention to the character of the satirical novel by Ilya Ilf and Evgeny Petrov «Twelve Chairs» -Ellochka the cannibal. Do you remember that wind maiden? If you are not familiar with her image, then check it out. This is exactly what infantile women look like. Not only so, of course, but this image very well conveys the infantile nature of women. And think about how to live with such a woman. How to start a family with her, how to raise children. Is this even possible?

At first, a man in a woman is attracted to her appearance, you can say, sexuality, well, everyone knows that. He is also interested in her manners, playfulness, lightness, gaiety, all this is a wrapper that is easy to appreciate at first. The inner content is learned later, sometimes much later. And over time, a man understands that this inner content in a serious relationship is much more important than the external merits of a woman. Even a very beautiful woman can be wildly annoying with her inner depravity and create an incredible number of problems. Therefore, infantilism is one of the internal shortcomings of a person, which is very difficult to accept and even harder to correct. Such women constantly create stressful situations in relationships. They just can’t live in peace. Instead of living a creative life, they always create some problems, always inflame the atmosphere, or on purpose, with their mistakes and shortcomings. Many of them constantly demand something from a man, because they are always and everything is not enough. And if he suddenly decides to satisfy all the crazy whims of such a woman, who with screams and tantrums will convince him of her rightness and his wrongness, then she will only get impudent faster and start asking for even more.

We all know and should know that children are often unable to appreciate all the good things that adults do for them. They often do not understand it, because they are limited in their perception of the world, and secondly, for them, everything good is often the norm, because they do not understand how difficult it is to create this good. And if this is the norm, then why and how to appreciate it, when it is better to demand even more, since they give, expanding the horizon of what is allowed. Here it is time to recall the greedy old woman from Pushkin’s fairy tale «About the Fisherman and the Fish», or rather, about the greedy infantile old woman, for such she was in this fairy tale, and therefore behaved so recklessly.

Thus, such women are primarily a burden. This is the most important thing that a man who enters into a relationship with such a woman for one reason or another should remember. Whether it’s worth carrying as a heavy load or not is a man’s choice. And he must justify it for himself. Such a woman will most likely never stop being a burden, the only question is how to live with her and how to treat her, so as not to go crazy, and so that there is meaning in such a relationship. Someone just needs a doll for sex, and someone it’s not enough to feel happy. After all, just think, in an adult body, whose age gives reason to expect something serious from it, there will be a teenager, and not just a teenager, but a rebellious teenager, with a complete lack of empathy and the necessary reasonableness to make more or less reasonable decisions. What will you do with such a person?

And unlike teenagers, infantile people, in our case women, practically do not develop. That is, they are stuck in such an intellectual and psychological state, or even in such a teenage age, and they remain in it. In terms of maturity, they do not develop, do not grow, do not expand the zone of their awareness, that is, do not come to a deeper understanding of various things. Well, there are, of course, some progress in this direction, but either not with everyone, or not always, or not for long enough. This is not enough for a woman to move to a new, more mature level of perception of life. Therefore, it remains problematic.

And now take all the problems that arise with rebellious teenagers and shift them to a seemingly adult woman, from whom a man expects some kind of seriousness, responsibility, some kind of understanding, and you will get a completely inappropriate type of person with contradictory indicators. It is simply impossible to pin something serious on such people. It’s like buying an expensive, prestigious car, with the appropriate appearance, but rotten inside. You get in it, start it up, or rather, try to start it up, and it flounders, creaks, groans, crumbles and does not go. So it is here. Your eyes will deceive you. You will not get anything from an infantile woman except appearance, if she has it, or something from what she managed to learn. All other important women’s services will be in poor condition, or they will not exist at all.

I will not say that all of them, but many of these women are bad housewives, bad household assistants, bad friends. They are not able to listen, understand, support a man, and they do not want to do this. The less mature a woman is, the less she wants to think about other people’s problems. Even if it’s about her man, her husband. If he has any problems, difficulties, he will not be able to discuss them with such a woman. These women also make bad or even disgusting mothers. After all, a child is a big responsibility. And infantile people are monstrously irresponsible. So it turns out that no matter what a person gets in the person of an infantile woman, in a serious relationship all these obvious shortcomings will constantly draw attention to themselves. You can’t cover them up with anything. A serious person simply does not have the patience to tolerate such inferiority in a relationship. And the frivolous one, too. When both partners are infantile, they have such a war that you just wonder how they can live like this. Well, it’s like children fighting and swearing with each other and only an adult can try them on somehow.

And the main disadvantage of infantile women is the inability to truly love. For them, love is the totality of all their selfish desires, embodied in some person who can satisfy them. This is the kind of person they will value as a performer of their desires. You can even say that their love is a whim, similar to what you see in the store, when a little girl wildly hysterics because she did not buy a doll that she liked and hugs her parents if they still buy it. Here is the love of infantiles-this is their whim, which is also expressed in tantrums. As it is, I want it, but they don’t give it to me.

Infantile women don’t love, they just want something. They don’t care about the other person’s feelings. In addition, their feelings are unstable, as children should be. Today, such a woman treats you well, and tomorrow she will hate you because you did not satisfy some whim of hers or reproached her for something, even if it was for business. Whereas love, if it is real, requires respect, concessions, and sacrifices from a person, because it is a mature feeling. Therefore, relationships with infantile women are not stable. You never know. What to expect from them. She will take and change because she wanted to, take and betray because it’s easy, take and run away from the family, finding a new love, because there is no responsibility in it. Well, or just gash a man, feeling power over him. And with an infantile man, he will fight all the time until they disperse.

Since an infantile woman has no interest in a man as a person, she does not care what is on his soul, how his affairs are going, what worries him, how his day went, and so on. Such a woman, if she listens to a man, then with such a dissatisfied face that it is better not to share anything with her. And then she’ll call you a bore if you don’t leave her alone with your problems. Because she’s not interested in them at all. Even if there are some financial problems in the family that need to be solved together, the woman is not interested in this at all. Solve them yourself. You’re a man, just think. Earn money, borrow money, spin around, but give her — an infantile woman-money, because she needs this, that, that. Well, as it happens with the same children, take them out and putthem down. And what it will cost a person is not interested in them at all. Because there are no serious feelings for him. Children think only of themselves. It is a mature person who can think about others, but infantiles are not interested in other people. There is simply no place for them in their mind.

Infantile women are not interested in everything that imposes some obligations on them and creates them some inconvenience. Children, everyday life, any financial problems of the family — leave them alone with all this! Don’t stop them from enjoying life by doing only what they like to do. After all, the only thing that infantile people think about is entertainment. Well, as it should be for children who know nothing about any obligations and responsibilities. And do not expect love from them. The probability that an infantile woman will mature, get mad, or, as serious men also say with hope: get smarter, is too low to count on it. But here it can become more impudent. No matter how much you do for her, all this will be belittled and criticized, so that you do even more. Men who try to please infantile women can be called suicides.

A serious man and an infantile woman may not have any common interests at all. Because mature people think in one way, and immature people think in another. A man will be interested in all the important things in life, and not just entertainment. Therefore, something to discuss, something smart to look at, listen to, read, together with such a woman will not work. She will disappear in her childhood world, and you will be, like, not alone, but at the same time alone. Your world is not interesting to her, and her world is not only primitive for you, it is completely useless. In the adult world, being a child means taking a lot of risks. Mature people understand this, but infantile people have a wind in their head.