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This book is directed to one of the most important feelings — love. Everybody thinks about love, everybody wants love and many people dream for it. How many have received love? How many have love now? How many are looking for love? The book which you hold is designed to help to finding love. It may not take you to the dream but with the described in the following pages you can help to yourself to get to it. The work allows us to better understand ourselves and others. Here are introduce a different opportunities to discover the truth about the people around us. There is no better than knowing that we are truly loved but in a world full of lies and short ties we need more than words to be sure in love. This book is designed to recognize the other not from him words but from him choices. Let us listen to his actions and see the truth in the eyes of “The Perfect”.
Is there a perfect partner for us? — that‘s a question, which everyone asks.
— Where is my soul mate?
Where is the person with who I living the remainder of my life?
Don’t have a perfect partner is true. Don’t have a perfect effigy who is normally accepted. But there is our soul mate which look like ourselves. Person in which we are ready to fall in love if fate meets us. Everyone wants love. Everyone wants calm, certitude and comfort. But when we except those common wishes everything else is individual. Some people looking for a quieter partner others cheerful. We looking for ourselves. We want the person on other side to look like us because we love ourselves. To feel good and glad must we love ourselves. If we love ourselves looking in others for likeness. We looking for the qualities which we like in us. For that exclude the theory of opposites. We do not have to be the same as our mate but similar by qualities and traits. Too different partners do not stay together for long, in their relationship. There can’t be two extremes stay a long time together because there is too many compromises that they have to do. And in opposition to the words: the real love survives nevertheless and you must to make compromises in relationship — I say, No. If love is real you do not have to do this compromises and repress yourself. If love is real your beloved would let you act in your own way. If he loves you will let you do that you like without limits you. Our society set many of restrictions and we need a lot of compromises to be in frontier. We do not have to repress ourselves in love and change our essence. When the perfect partner came in the right moment will notice us, will see the uniqueness in our thinking, action, behavior. He will be with us for our true self. Here is the mistake of many people. They think compromises are needed for healthy relations but No, they need only from love. The few people who met real love know that. In the new century shows the increasing trend of divorces and nonsensical short ties. Everyone dreams of falling in love. Everyone looking for love. But somewhere to the road we lose and change way. We choose unsuitable halves and after a year or two we separate and again, and again. The cycle is repeated until we tired and then realize we wasted precious time in wandering with unsuitable people. For success in the search we must asking questions. Need to know what we want and what we are looking for. For this is necessary to analyze ourselves and experience which we have accumulated. Is bad when we get tired from meetings with inappropriate partners and are desperate. Sometimes we just want to feel some warmth. To get closer to another human to understand we are not alone. This is completely normal. All of us scare of loneliness even those who thinking are wont with loneliness. Everything comes from the fear of hurt. In hectic everyday life of the 21st century and the monotony in our way of life we completely forget what we want. Thoughtful in work we don’t give attention to the important things. The Truth is that in less than an hour we can understand whether one partner is right for us. We can sense whether are ready to have relation with the person or see end before begin. Instead of focusing on our dreams and requirements we just rush into doomed relation thinking that we will not be alone. After then we feel that regardless of the presence of the other we are alone and misunderstood. When we look around and see the truth it turns out that we lost a time and nerves in something wrong. Maybe in this time we missed much better opportunities. When we bind make it with long-term plan but often our plan fails. In beginning of dating is possible to know if this is our half. Feelings are important, emotion, passion-everything of this. Primary in us is the best factor for feelings and love. If we excepted this stay many undisclosed signs. The facts says when have attraction it is not just sense but and assessment. We can be strong attracted by someone but when he says something nonsensical for us to instantly cede from him. It is good to know our requirements and appreciate the situation realistically. Nowadays all make statistics, evaluation and research. With analyzing some situations improving our work and eliminate potential mistake. We need to use the same in the private life to not disappointed constantly. We need to make a real picture of the happening in our personal world. All of this happen with the right questions. Inquiries not only to the interlocutor but also to ourselves. Most questions and answers give us a better chance to know each other and this increases the opportunity for an accurate assessment of the other. Increasingly people lie and hide themself. For a relationship important is our truth and sincerity and that of the other. At a time in which everyone hides and doesn’t share the truth with the surrounding people is difficult to understand with whom we communicate. That is intended of this book which you hold in your hands. She will help you discern the truth alone. This book reveals different ways to see the truth. “The perfect” gives you opportunity to know who is the other in reality.
When people with opposite characters are together that often is followed by crash. The relationship between a completely different twice people is not a good decision. Don’t have a way one of them to listen classical music while the other enjoys wild rock compilation. Based on the exact assessment no have matter how much they attract because can’t stay together for a long time. Compromises will hinder on their relation. Now you thinking about self if you are in similar position.
— How I will fun with my partner together? — The answer is — no way. To have a beloved means doing activities together. To go to the cinema, theater, concert, walk, holiday or other together. Do you already see a problem in the opposite characters? If answer is no you imagine how you want to watch a comedy but your beloved liked a thriller and he doesn’t want to watch the melodramatic comedy which you prefer. Well there will be a compromise in the beginning but once, twice, three times and the cup will overflow. Everything accumulating in us and when the cup with patience and retreat is full the end coming. In such moments accumulated tension spews and people separate. When talking about a character of the other we can’t say that of 100% must be like us but availability of many differences destroy the relation. In moments in which we are ready to compromise nevertheless in ourselves stack anger, fury and dissatisfaction.
— Why should I make a compromise? Why not the other? -But on the end to prevent a scandal we reconciled which sooner or later leads to end. In one moment we asking ourselves:
— Why was necessary all of this? Why didn’t I understood earlier? Why didn’t I saw that? Should I had to lose that years of my life? — Now I can say that you asking the right questions. If you had earlier thought of analyzing your relationship and to clarify your desires and needs already you could be with right partner. It is time to refute other used often phrase.
— “By experience does not hurt the head” — completely wrong hurts. Namely from nerves in the time of the senseless experience will certainly be your head hurts. From this you will be the best angry to yourself. To be healthy, happy and to feel good we need from serenity. This calm can give us only one a real connection without tension and often quarrels. And as we have decided to refuse statements let us continue with:
— “When people quarrel have love between each other” — not is so, wrong statement. If you really love someone you like his actions and behavior therefore you do not have to make scandals. People are prone to love but true love is unique and special. She differs from the love that we feel to familiar people around us, family or colleagues from work. When we looking for a partner become aware we can’t really love two people. If we feel the same to different two people none of them are our soul mate. Once recognized her nothing else can compare with these feelings nothing can spoil this. Because when we really are in love and ask right questions to ourselves everyone answers are:
— Does he is gentle?
— Does he love animals?
— Does he like the sea?
— Does he eat sweet cake?
— Does he makes something romantic about me?
When we have similar characters it is easy to answer with Yes. When we are different the answer will be No probably.-What about a vacation? To go with a completely different person will need somebody of us to make a compromises. You plans a vacation to relax, to break from the boring, monotony and supposed to be enjoy. An excursion with ours opposite would not be a pleasure instead this will be a nightmare and a lot more tiring than work environment.
— Did you happen to go somewhere with your beloved and instead of resting to been nervous in more of time? — If that so, you have a problem. All of us act differently in given situations. Someone resigns with the differences for money and a good life. Others for his fear of loneliness.
— Is it worth it? Are you ready to deny from your true love? Will you be able to replace the delight that would you be have by the right partner? Are you ready to walk a way accompanied with sadness, nerves and disappointments to do not be alone or poor? Don’t need to give up of serenity and spiritual freedom only because you are frightened of lonely or for material benefits. Be yourself and seek love because this unique feel can’t be replaced with nothing. May be now I dissuaded you from your self-destructive actions and I ruined your fake ties. Let thinking real:
— What are you living for?
— What do you want?
— What do you dream of? That which left in our memory during life are the emotions. Moments with people:
— The first time when I drove a bicycle with my brother. A great weekend for fish with my parents. Skiing weekend with my friends last winter. — Ask yourself:
— Do you remember when you bought something? -don’t talk about the last few weeks.
— Do you remember before five years ago to had French branded bag or Swiss clock? — No, you don’t even think about it. But in your mind somewhere you remember for walked in the park with your kids. This is important. The moments with people and communication. When it’s easy we feel good and happy. If we have thousands of scandals with someone the thought of bad relations remains in our minds. Well as you want to complain and be constantly tormented of your personal life OK. Choice is yours. But if you want to meet true love and ready for this just be happy at that you are awake up today. When your face make a stupid smile after look in eyes of beloved is irreplaceable. Be sincere with yourself and give answer on your questions. Don’t started meaningless and tiring relationships. Focus on that you want and it will come to you. Not waste time in self-deception. Increasingly we seeing people try to cope with negativity and dissatisfaction. We can’t be in good soul state if constantly is necessary to suppress our inner self. For this it is important to unravel the inconsistencies in words “Opposites is attract”. If you read carefully and answered own questions already you know that opposites characters not stay together for a long time. Are we looking for something for once -Yes. — But for serious and promising relationships the difference destroy the good relations.
What we are looking for?
The most important are our correct judgment and clarity in the search. We need to know our requirements exactly. To know what we want in relationship. To start we need to understand ourselves.
— Am I looking for a serious relation?
— Something temporary to not be alone?
— Maybe something for once? — That’s the three initial questions us which need we start. After responded on them we can act in the right direction. These three types of links are different routes in which we can go in any time. Answers lead us to different partners. I will mention again that for less an hour we can know what wants the other and whether we are suitable for each other. Often answer to the previous questions is:
— I don’t know — It sounds so hesitant but at the same time used frequently. In many times we wonder what we really want. We are fluctuating and wait. We lose time which can use better for find a perfect partner. It’s the time for the truth.The more questions who we ask ourselves help us to know better who we are. What is our purpose, desires and what we are looking for. To know yourself is hard but it gives you the advantage to be better in decision-making. We make choices in all of time. Constantly making decisions:
— How I go to the work? — By metro or by bus.
— Do I get out with sport shoes or elegante boots who I bought yesterday? — Often we choose in the store:
— What cheese we take? — Yellow, white, cheap, expensive, small piece or big piece. We make many choices that we don’t see because they are part of our daily routine. The choice with who to have we a relationship is more serious and requires more attention. For that we need to make it easier with the exact and specific requirements. To do not wander aimlessly and complaining about failed relations need to decide what we looking for. Accordingly we are looking for a washing machine we will not go into a grocery store. Our action way needs to change. If looking for athlete you will go to different sports events. If you prefer elegant, peaceful person will not rush to the first disco and you’ll be visiting theater or gallery. Often the links that we create are with people similar to us. We meet them in the workplace, in the urban transport, in the park. The complicated in relationships is our own behavior. We don’t know what we are looking for and throwing into something we aren’t satisfied. After the unsuccessful experience we say:
— I don’t want this — Yes, but real: -What do I want? — The solution is front of us. Beginning to reject different types of connections we need of much time to feel what we are looking for. The easiest way is to answer the questions:
— What do I need?
— What kind of relation will make me happy?
— Do I want to be a happy?
— Do I should hurt myself with inappropriate partners? — It’s time for the first step in finding the right direction. The first step is to know who you are. Asking yourself what you like to do:
— Do I love to do sports? Do I like to read books? Do I like to go to a picnic? Do I like to swimming? What is my favorite dish? — There are many questions to help you with self-awareness. This is look like to the “lexicons” in who we wrote memories and answered interesting questions in past. On this way we get to know the essence us and can analyze ourselves. But except this group there are other queries that help us to realize our qualities: